Figured it out (I think)
WHenever I clicked enable frontpage, the server would timeout, but if I clicked on frontpage again it would say enabled...
so I assumed t was enabled. It still would'nt work so then I would click disable. It wouldn't time out on disable and would come back and say the uninstall was done.
when I tried to enable again after disabling, it would timeout...so instead of disabling it first I clicked enable a second time without disabling it again, and this time I didn't get a timeout, and it works...I hope this helps other people!
The reason I never clicked enable twice was because when I moved the site it had all the _directories and _files, so it wouldn't install until I deleted them. So I assumed I would get the ame error that started this whole mess if I tried to enable a site that was already enabled...silly me!