If you can read the emails in the queue you can probably see the username in the headers. If you can't then the user knows he's spamming and it's going to be harder. Can you post a snippet of the log for a specific email message as it goes through your server?
i try to delete the queue list. it show "No valid message ID's were passed"
You may have to delete the queue manually. For large queue's this may not be easy. The best way to do it is with the exiqgrep program. Search these forums for installation and usage instructions.