Thanks Jeff
I see in Variables, this setting for interactive timeout 28,800
what controls it now?, do I have to have a "my.cnf" or can I make it global server wise?
Was informed to lower this setting to something more reasonable, like 800.
I seem to have quite a few word press sites on the server and they hold connections for an extremely long time, sometimes it seems to tie up MySQL with unnecessary connections causing it to clog and slow or jam the server.