Yup that was the reason i asked for yes or no SMTP , the sendmail and now more in combination with auth.... not succeeding / succesfull and this newer handling in updated exim is a ....
There then hostname server settings yes or no on domain itself or hostname the spf dkim and all that kind of stuff are handled more strict ( or even wrong) i guess
See also https://bugs.exim.org/show_bug.cgi?id=2813
Ah, yeah I also searched some more, and I think my problem has more to do with what is described here:
https://bugs.php.net/bug.php?id=78916 (but maybe I'm wrong about that, and it is the exim pam auth)
My exim paniclog also has the
"Unable to call getifaddrs: 97 Address family not supported by protocol"
when sending via sendmail
I think I'll just migrate the codebase from sendmail to smtp
For now I have crontab job running /usr/sbin/exim -q
so email send via sendmail, which end up in the mailqueue, are still delivered in the meantime
(not ideal, but it is working for now, and with dkim btw)