And it popped up again but only in cockpit so I can control some stuff, but I guess it is a bug somewhere because if I look in my.conf it says:
user="da_admin"
password=""*******""
protocol="socket"
socket="/var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock"
yet when I connect through Directadmin under extra programs/phpmyadmin it opens and connects to a new tab with phpmyadmin and it has 2 apparently db in it or whatever one calls it: with information_scheme and performance_scheme and for the record I am not using mariadb.